Let It Be This Moment Now

Last Thursday I had a conversation with a family member that didn’t end well. 

When I reflect on our exchange the one simple thing I could have done was to just listen. 

But I went into fix and solution mode and said, “If you did that differently”, and “You never tried that”, “You know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting a different result”, while I’d really like to defend my point it doesn’t matter. 

And then it got personal we started pushing each other’s buttons. It ended with both of us needing to get off the phone– I was exhausted and so was she. And as of today, it’s still unresolved.  I want to call but respecting her need for space. 

People want to be heard they want a witness to their life to their joys and their pain. 

Whether it’s with a family member, a friend or a stranger when we truly listen lives are changed.  George Floyd would be alive today. And now in this pivotal moment in our history we get to listen and end this archaic, systemic racism and devaluing of black lives.

Peace starts with me and you.

Let it be this moment now, 

Love, 

Louisa 

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