Help Is on the Way

Do you have a hard time asking for help? If you do, you’re not alone. 

I have a friend going through what I call the change trifecta — divorce, job change and possible relocation in the midst of our collective change.  She shared with me that she doesn’t like asking for help. I am not really sure why. 

Receiving is like breathing it’s the inhale to the exhale of giving and we need both in life. Why is it so hard to ask for help? 

According to Amanda Palmer, the author of “The Art of Asking or How I learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help”, here’s what she says:

“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us, it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.” 

There is also the other side of the coin according to author, Cindee Snider, “Being asked to help can sometimes be as difficult as asking for, because it can feel awkward, uncomfortable, aggravating and inconvenient. Yet we are called to open the door to inconvenience.”

And lastly asking for help can be the step that makes your dream come true. Randy Pausch author of the “The Last Lecture” said, “Sometimes all you have to do is ask and it leads to all your dreams coming true. Ask those questions. Just ask them. More often than you’d suspect, the answer you get is, “Sure.”

So, this week no matter what you are fearing if you need help ask for help. You’ll be so glad you did and if you see someone in need ask them, “How can I help you?”. You’ll be so glad you did. 

Together we navigate to the other side, 

Love, 

Louisa 

P.S.  Need help? feel free to comment.